A gay man explains his perspective on gender to a homophobic person who insulted him in order to help him have a better understanding of what it’s like to be gay.
You think you know what gender is? No, you don’t know. You’re wrong! Gender is much more than just being a male or female. The word gender is a small word but it carries enormous meaning. You don’t know what gender is and you don’t know what it’s like to be judged by others because you don’t meet the gender norms that society has created for us.
Gay, lesbian, transgender, and queer people get judged and harmed by others because of people like you who don’t understand them. Of course you don’t know how they feel, because you’re too scared to be around them or even have a normal conversation without some nonsense coming out your mouth, like derogatory words that put people down and make them feel like committing suicide.
But I’m not going to let you talk to me like how you speak to other gay men. You’re going to respect me and respect what I have to say because you don’t know what it’s like to be gay and go through what we go through. You don’t know what it’s like to have to go to school every day and be by yourself just because you don’t fit in like other boys in school. And also let’s not forget being bullied for it, getting beat up, and getting out–casted.
You don’t know what rejection from your own family feels like. You know I thought parents were supposed to love you unconditionally, no matter what, right? Well no, at least not mine. My parents disowned me. My father kicked me out and my mother still won’t speak to me.
Now let me ask you some questions. When you wake up in the morning are you worried about looking straight? About feeling straight? Do you have friends and a family that love you? Do you ever look in the mirror and hate yourself for what you see because you’re not good enough to please everyone? Because your body doesn’t look how you want it to look? Do you wake up wishing you were dead already so you wouldn’t have to deal with yourself?
Exactly, just what I thought. You have no idea what it’s like to be me. So, next time you are talking to a gay person, respect them because at the end of the day you don’t win anything from harming someone and spreading hate.